Conversation Obstacles

I have noticed while growing up I have always bonded easier with girls. I have had 5 best friends in my life time and all have been the same sex as me. Now do not get me wrong, I have had boy friends that I say hi and bye to but have never told a boy my secrets or been close enough or comfortable to have a deep conversation with. Even today it is much easier for me to approach a girl and start a conversation. A woman to women talk has much more things to discuss because women have a lot of things in common. Now if a women and a man held a conversation the topics are limited because the man may not know what topic will offend the women and quite frankly not all women are into cars and sports so how much they talk about and how easily it is communicated is limited. I tend to feel uncomfortable while talking to men, in no way do I mean insecure. When I try to strike up a conversation with a male I always feel like they are trying to hit on me or they think I am trying to hit on them. The feeling really is unfortunate because it has cost me a lot of friendships and opportunities because I shut a lot of people out of my life due to this issue. On another note females are not approachable but are very conversational and understand things. The majority of women talk about their issues and care to comfort those who are having issues too, thus Is why mothers and daughters are able to hold conversation easier than a father might to his son. Men are also known to be egotistic and full of pride, a father expects more from his son than anyone else and in many situations a son may not feel up to his father’s expectations. It is also harder for a son and father to hold a conversation due to the fact that men do not like to express emotion in most cases, so a man’s son may not feel like his father would be interested in his feelings and this causes barrier. Men like to talk about the more materialistic things rather than emotion and issues. I am a daughter of one man and a step-daughter of another; I have never gone to either one of my father’s with a problem I was having and I have never heard them speak of a problem themselves, it has always been my mom. I have even tried to whisper things to my mom just because I feel like my dad just does not understand the things and feelings we girls feel. I know a man’s relationship with his daughter is different than a relationship with his son but in my opinion men are just overall hard to communicate to and in my situation is even harder because I have this wall up anyway that makes conversation with the opposite sex awkward.