Respect seems to be all anyone wants anymore, after all it is all I ever hear about. I have also heard people talk about how they want happiness but depend on that happiness through other things then the internal happiness, like money and love. Now to have to pick and choose between self-respect and happiness and which one is most important in my life, I would have to go with happiness. For some this may be mind boggling but let me explain. I have seen people and I personally know someone who is so self-respected it damages everything else around him, I refer to it as his pride. Self-respect is a wonderful quality to have and I suggest we all have it, but in a day and age like today, were depression is sky rocketing, happiness is my preference. I used to be prideful just like the gentlemen I mentioned above but I realized it did not make me feel as good as being happy does. When we expect everyone to respect us, there are too many chances of someone crossing the line and we end up losing someone who once made us happy because we are so concerned with this respect issue. I have watched and been a victim of receiving happiness from love and money. I always found away around the quote “money can’t buy you happiness” because for me it did, when I bought new cloths I was happy, for an hour, and then I was not anymore. Do not get me wrong because money can buy you happiness while it is there, but when it is gone I guarantee you wont be happy anymore. Now I have learned to find my happiness in my blessings. I am happy that I was blessed with the talent to play basketball, I am happy that I live to see another day and the beautiful people that surround me, the less materialistic things. Now if I had self-respect and no happiness and I would fall straight into depression, because it would be as if I was pushing people away who want to be near as soon as they offend me.
Choosing between the two is like being stuck between a rock and a hard place, but the two different sides help to make a precise decision. Thankfully this is not a life or death choice and we can still go on with both. I still carry my self-respect but I never let it get in the way of something or someone that makes me happy. I allow myself to look past the less important things that may alter my emotions and I am fine with that, I wish others would too because some peoples pride (self-respect) is way to much for just them to carry, it can be split between a couple of people. At the end of the day I am proud to be happy and I believe that is most important.
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Way to go, Brittni, you happily blessed, basketball playing, well dressed, self-respecting believer in yourself! I had already commented on this blog once, but Windos quit responding and I have no idea if you got my original comments or not, so here we go with take two:
ReplyDeleteI'm impressed that you "have learned to find [your] happiness in [your] blessings." Many people live an entire lifetime and never realize that they have been blessed, but you have accomplished acknowledgment and reason at a very young age.
Self-respect wil also help carry you through life when other parts let you down. You'll always have yourself to rely on. Good for you!
Hey Britni, I enjoyed taking another walk through your mind. I say this because you always have so much to say and you are never shy about writing about your own struggles with life or anyone else’s (L.O.L). I am posting my blog a little later and it was nice to see someone else’s perspective on the question. I do agree with you, choosing between the two is difficult but I do believe that these statuses can lead to life or death situations. I respect your answer and I probably would go with self-respect because I believe that self-respect is more about worth than pride and without knowing your own worth or having a foundation, I do not believe you can achieve happiness. However, I am who I am and you are who you are, two different people with two different opinions. Good job on your blog post have a great Spring break.
ReplyDeleteHey B! I really enjoyed reading your blog this week. I think it is interesting how the past few weeks we have chosen to write on the same topics, it is kind of ironic! Your blog was thought provoking to me. Your opening line was great! It made me want to keep reading and find out what else you were going to talk about. Having self-respect is what everyone is talking about these days and it is interesting because no one really talks about happiness and self-respect going hand in hand. It always seems like you have to choose one or the other. Why can’t we have both at the same time? I like how you really went into depth to explain why you chose happiness over self-respect. I completely see your side of your argument and I never really thought that way was possible. I never thought how having too much self-respect can be depressing and ruin some part of you. If you have too much self-respect then you could possibly not be living your life to the fullest. When you chose to be so uptight and cautious about everything you can not live your life to the fullest and enjoy every moment. Your blog was awesome, great job!
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