It has been said often that patience is a virtue; unfortunately I could never perfect my inability to remain patient. When I speak with people it irritates me when I know what they are going to say but they put so many unneeded words in between the important text that I begin to grow inpatient. I often want to cut them off and finish their statement for them. The same goes when I communicate online with friends and family, sometimes they put superfluous information that confuses me, not to mention I once again lose my patience waiting on a reply when it should only take a couple seconds, but since they want to elaborate it takes longer. I have learned from all this and keep all my lines of communication as short and sweet and they need to be. There is a time and place for everything, so depending on who I am talking to and what one is asking is how elaborate my response will be weather in person or through online communication. I like to keep things as short as possible but use descriptive words to help guide the person I am talking to, to my main idea or thought. I take my own advice into consideration, I figure if I put too much into what I am saying I will lose the person I am speaking with to confusion. It is often harder to lose someone to confusion during an online conversation with very detailed responses just because it is hard to tell what point of view you are coming from since they cannot hear a tone or feel your emotion. Grammar is another thing, if the grammar in a text in not proper it will also cause confusion. It is just best overall to keep things detailed enough for one to follow but not to thorough that they get lost in your text or speech.
When I chat or email with people online I do not think they think much of my ways of communication because it is something we all practically do the same. We tend to short hand things and abbreviate words that do not need to be abbreviated for instance “YOU” as “U” and “AND” and “N”. I think when I others and I do such a thing, it shows a sign of laziness and impatience, both in which I have no problem admitting too. I like to give fast responses as much as I like to receive them, the point is much more important to me then the unnecessary information that others tend to provide. Unfortunately when we speak we cannot short hand much, our best bet is just to eliminate the extras and get straight to the point, this shows impatience I am sure, however the majority of the time I am on full schedule and my time is limited. If someone asks me a yes or no question, more than likely it will be exactly one of those two answers and nothing more, not even a reason as to why, just to save time and get to the idea as soon as possible.
I am almost positive that I would impress more people in person and online if I elaborated a little bit more on things. It is too bad that I have this issue with patience and rush things that should be looked at and evaluated a lot more in depth than what I do. Although it comes in handy, I am motivated to work on this problem and elaborate much more on things
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Impatience, we have all been found guilty of that. I sometimes wonder if that's a newer thing though. I mean obviously people have always been impatient, but I wonder if our communication style has become more impatient in modern times. I especially wonder if our generous wants to communicate more like the 30-seconds ads on tv rather than through the elaborate stories our grandfathers would tell. It feels sometimes that we have shrunken our attention spans considerable in the post-modern era. I have to wonder sometimes if we can maintain long conversation on a single subject anymore. Does anyone still write eight page love letters? Or do we just send "I <3 U" texts all day? Certainly a text is much more efficient, but it just doesn’t quite seem that romantic. Imagine the story of the Notebook by Nicholas Sparks, in modern times. Noah sent her a text message everyday for a whole year! But Allie’s mother hid her iPhone from her so she never knew! I don’t know about you, but that just sound funny rather than like an epic and enduring romance to last the ages. So that leaves me a final question: are those extra details that make us impatient simply superfluous fluff, or are they the magic notes that make us human?
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dear brit, patience whats that? ha ha. i know it is one thing we all lack from time to time. most of us all the time but we can all use work with being more patient. thats for sure. everybody is guilty of it whether they want to admit it or not they are. but i know that when things are very interesting and the person just goes on and on about detials and junk it gets annoying too. so it is not that crazy to think that people do not get impatient during a story. i know i have done it on many occasions that i just want to know what happened not every little detail. this is just the human side of us. we always want to know what is happening right now or what just happened we just do not want the details we want only the important highlights. and with this laziness it is common, as you stated, that people use letters rather than owrds. like they use for YOU and UR for YOUR, N for AND and many other things like TTYL for TALK TO YOU LATER. we are just to lazy to type it out we just want to communicate with the least amount of effort possible. thats just what we do.
ReplyDeleteHey B! Your blog was very interesting this week and I really enjoyed it. I like how you talked about being impatient. I am the exact same way! When people text me a long text when just a few words would do I start to get irritated. Isn’t the whole point of texting to tell someone something in a short amount of time? I like how you talked about how you write a lot or a little depending on who you are talking to and what you are talking about. If everyone could learn how to do this I think we would all spend a lot less time emailing and texting people. I always feel like I need to explain what I am talking about because when I try and be short about it they always seem to ask why or how? I also completely agree with you on the fact that if the grammar isn’t proper than it can cause confusion. I absolutely hate when people misspell words or use abbreviations for words that are not that long to begin with. I think if people stopped and thought about what they were saying before they say it then it would help with the confusion and people getting irritated. You did a great job on your blog this week and I really enjoyed it.
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